Just got the news from my uncle that Malu's engagement is being called off. Their marriage was to take place on 21 Apr '13.
It was just about six months back that their betrothal ceremony was conducted before friends and elders of the two families, at a glittering ceremony. The couple looked radiant and happy and if I were to take poetic liberties, looked made for each other - he, in a beige 'sherwani' and she, in a green, spangled saree worn the 'Gujju' way! The settings looked picture perfect and we'd broken off then, promising to meet at the wedding!!
The boy and the girl were constantly in touch through e-mail and the telephone - the advantages that the present generation have in understanding each other. As the boy was working abroad, according to Malu, he wanted to be in touch almost all through the day, which hindered her work at the office and she'd communicated her difficulty to him to which he'd taken umbrage to.
Malu says that she found something amiss because of the following reactions from the boy:-
(a) He'd started dictating terms and taking things for granted as though they're already man and wife.
(b) He'd entailed the services of two of his friends, at Thiruvananthapuram, to tail her to find out as to
whether she was into another relationship.
(c) His elder brother - he's back home and has just got his visa to go abroad - began demanding reasons
from her about her 'wayward'(?) behaviour.
I believe that the two families had talked things over and have agreed to disagree and disengage!
Despite her parents misgivings, Malu is emphatic that he's not her man and wants to break off the engagement. And we've gone by her wish, mindful of the possible repercussions. On a personal level, I'm with Malu, not because she's my niece, but because I'm of the opinion that if a relationship begins on a note of suspicion and misunderstanding, it's never gonna take off and would have a very, very short life!
Tailpiece.
A painful decision but an appropriate one. The discomfort it causes now would be much lesser than what the repercussions would be, if carried out later. And what would the others say? Should anyone be bothered and who're they to sit in judgement? And one can't stop them, anyways, because, 'kuch tho log kahenge'.
It was just about six months back that their betrothal ceremony was conducted before friends and elders of the two families, at a glittering ceremony. The couple looked radiant and happy and if I were to take poetic liberties, looked made for each other - he, in a beige 'sherwani' and she, in a green, spangled saree worn the 'Gujju' way! The settings looked picture perfect and we'd broken off then, promising to meet at the wedding!!
The boy and the girl were constantly in touch through e-mail and the telephone - the advantages that the present generation have in understanding each other. As the boy was working abroad, according to Malu, he wanted to be in touch almost all through the day, which hindered her work at the office and she'd communicated her difficulty to him to which he'd taken umbrage to.
Malu says that she found something amiss because of the following reactions from the boy:-
(a) He'd started dictating terms and taking things for granted as though they're already man and wife.
(b) He'd entailed the services of two of his friends, at Thiruvananthapuram, to tail her to find out as to
whether she was into another relationship.
(c) His elder brother - he's back home and has just got his visa to go abroad - began demanding reasons
from her about her 'wayward'(?) behaviour.
I believe that the two families had talked things over and have agreed to disagree and disengage!
Despite her parents misgivings, Malu is emphatic that he's not her man and wants to break off the engagement. And we've gone by her wish, mindful of the possible repercussions. On a personal level, I'm with Malu, not because she's my niece, but because I'm of the opinion that if a relationship begins on a note of suspicion and misunderstanding, it's never gonna take off and would have a very, very short life!
Tailpiece.
A painful decision but an appropriate one. The discomfort it causes now would be much lesser than what the repercussions would be, if carried out later. And what would the others say? Should anyone be bothered and who're they to sit in judgement? And one can't stop them, anyways, because, 'kuch tho log kahenge'.
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