I'm extremely saddened by the deteriorating relationship of a couple that I know of very well. Events seem to be overtaking them and onlookers, who should have continued to remain so, have become the key players and the actual people who should have taken charge of the situation have been reduced to being mere spectators!
And the root of the problem? Alcoholism!
Let me try to retrace the couple's travails. The young man was a sporting enthusiast, used to be honest about his workouts everyday and post - exercises, used to have a drink or two and never beyond. He used to say that the workouts permitted him to indulge! But over a period, the indulgence got to be extravagant that sadly, today he requires alcohol daily and more often than not, drinks himself silly and gets knocked off his senses in the process, almost regularly. He's also begun another attendant habit(which, I understand is the secondary stage of alcoholism!) - long chats with the opposite sex(at least, he thinks so but is fraught with danger because cyber frauds take advantage of the situation, posing as people that they really aren't) on the net. It's he who has come to the conclusion that he must part ways with his wife.
And what does the poor lady resort to? Like the typical suffering, Indian wife she consults astrologers(and gets hoodwinked by the guys, in the bargain!) and visits temples doing 'pujas' in the fond hope that her husband will eventually return, unscathed once the evil forces recede!
My take.
What needs to be done is to have him admitted into a de-addiction centre where the healing process starts in right earnest, without further delay. But the guy is firmly resisting it with the alibi that if at all he were to have a drink, post treatment, the results could be catastrophic, even fatal! And his so - called well wishers, the onlookers as I'd mentioned earlier - reinforce this fear of his, putting his family on the defensive and to inaction.
To the query as to why he should be indulging - post treatment - he remains silent!!
Tailpiece.
The situation has been agonising and has become an intensely personal grief as the protagonists happen to be my kid sister and her husband!
And the root of the problem? Alcoholism!
Let me try to retrace the couple's travails. The young man was a sporting enthusiast, used to be honest about his workouts everyday and post - exercises, used to have a drink or two and never beyond. He used to say that the workouts permitted him to indulge! But over a period, the indulgence got to be extravagant that sadly, today he requires alcohol daily and more often than not, drinks himself silly and gets knocked off his senses in the process, almost regularly. He's also begun another attendant habit(which, I understand is the secondary stage of alcoholism!) - long chats with the opposite sex(at least, he thinks so but is fraught with danger because cyber frauds take advantage of the situation, posing as people that they really aren't) on the net. It's he who has come to the conclusion that he must part ways with his wife.
And what does the poor lady resort to? Like the typical suffering, Indian wife she consults astrologers(and gets hoodwinked by the guys, in the bargain!) and visits temples doing 'pujas' in the fond hope that her husband will eventually return, unscathed once the evil forces recede!
My take.
What needs to be done is to have him admitted into a de-addiction centre where the healing process starts in right earnest, without further delay. But the guy is firmly resisting it with the alibi that if at all he were to have a drink, post treatment, the results could be catastrophic, even fatal! And his so - called well wishers, the onlookers as I'd mentioned earlier - reinforce this fear of his, putting his family on the defensive and to inaction.
To the query as to why he should be indulging - post treatment - he remains silent!!
Tailpiece.
The situation has been agonising and has become an intensely personal grief as the protagonists happen to be my kid sister and her husband!
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