I've deliberately used a line from Rabindranath Tagore's 'Gitanjali' as the heading for my thought for the day.
During my formative years, my grandparents and parents had always emphasised the need to readily give away anything that was within my powers to give. The giving had to be in a selfless manner, in that, I should not be doing so with the thought of what I'd get in return or use it for a future transaction from the recipient, in my favour! The point that was subtly drilled into me was that it took a lot of 'mental preparation' and the swallowing of ego for a person to ask of you a favour!! It becomes all the more complicated when the person happens to be someone whom you've never come across before or perhaps, it's someone towards whom you're not very favourably inclined!!!
The closest analogy that I can think of is the game of Boxing. In the boxing ring, while you've thrown enough punches to bring down your opponent and are on your way for the kill with that one final punch, you always give him the chance to recoup himself so as to eventually win after having fought on 'even' terms! In the bargain you're liable to be bloodied but the satisfaction of having won after having played it 'correctly' makes the success even sweeter.
Coming back to my original thought, I always wonder as to what drives people to make a great show of doing a favour to another? Probably, such guys derive a sadistic and perverse delight in seeing a fellow being squirm with discomfort! And further, that they'd ask for their pound of flesh when the time came!
The bottom line's that the person seeking the favour must feel totally at ease, as though it's the most natural thing to do, by your demeanour.
During my formative years, my grandparents and parents had always emphasised the need to readily give away anything that was within my powers to give. The giving had to be in a selfless manner, in that, I should not be doing so with the thought of what I'd get in return or use it for a future transaction from the recipient, in my favour! The point that was subtly drilled into me was that it took a lot of 'mental preparation' and the swallowing of ego for a person to ask of you a favour!! It becomes all the more complicated when the person happens to be someone whom you've never come across before or perhaps, it's someone towards whom you're not very favourably inclined!!!
The closest analogy that I can think of is the game of Boxing. In the boxing ring, while you've thrown enough punches to bring down your opponent and are on your way for the kill with that one final punch, you always give him the chance to recoup himself so as to eventually win after having fought on 'even' terms! In the bargain you're liable to be bloodied but the satisfaction of having won after having played it 'correctly' makes the success even sweeter.
Coming back to my original thought, I always wonder as to what drives people to make a great show of doing a favour to another? Probably, such guys derive a sadistic and perverse delight in seeing a fellow being squirm with discomfort! And further, that they'd ask for their pound of flesh when the time came!
The bottom line's that the person seeking the favour must feel totally at ease, as though it's the most natural thing to do, by your demeanour.
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